Theo James and Ruth Kearney Keep Their Marriage Extremely Private, But They’ve Been Together Forever and Have the Sweetest Love Story

The Gentlemen is coming back to Netflix which means the time has come to dust off our casual interest (to put it mildly/normally) in Theo James. The top notes for everyone respectfully curious? He’s in a committed relationship with Ruth Kearney, and therefore not one of the many celebrities on Raya. But if you want some more information, here’s everything you need to know about their sweet relationship!They’ve Been Together ForeverThese two have always been endgame. The pair met well before Theo was famous, when they were both at the v. elite and v. fancy Bristol Old Vic Theatre School.Theo told the Evening Standard that they connected when they “were huddled in leotards pretending to be mice” (just normal actor stuff). He added, “She's very sanguine, thoughtful and funny. It made sense pretty early on.”That said, Theo isn’t exactly here for the person he was when they met, telling InStyle “I think my wife (we met in our mid-20s) if we went back there now, she wouldn't want to hang out with that guy. He did dumb stuff and was stupid and angry. It's so true in a way; you evolve constantly.”Alert: They Both Starred in SanditonIf you identify as a Period Girly, I can only assume you’ve already seen Sanditon. And fun fact: Ruth played Eliza! She and Theo even shared some scenes together, so please enjoy this fan edit.They Got Married in 2018Sadly, Theo and Ruth haven’t shared their wedding photos with the public, so here’s these instead?Add Cosmopolitan as a preferred source in your Google search results.Use your Google account to add this to your settings.They Have Two KidsWho they keep entirely out of the public eye! But Theo told InStyle re: fatherhood, “It definitely changes you in an amazing way. It’s discombobulating at first. Especially with your first child because your whole life changes, but ultimately it makes you—definitely for me, at least—a much more solid person.”Ruth Isn’t Trying to Be FamousAs she put it to the Irish Mirror, “I’m not in this industry to become famous, I don't go for jobs because they will make me well known, it's so, hopefully, they will lead to more interesting roles.”They Live in Venice Beach and North LondonThough an interview in The Times points out that Theo prefers to hang out with normal people in Los Angeles vs. celebs. And also points out that he’s a huge fan of romantic gestures like surprise trips to Paris, just saying.As You Might Have Guessed, They’re Extremely PrivateMatt Winkelmeyer//Getty ImagesThey don’t share photos of their kids, Theo is largely offline, and even their red carpet appearances are few and far between. And Theo recently made it clear that that’s very intentional. Speaking to a British GQ reporter, he said, “Imagine, suddenly, you and I cannot walk down the street. What that does to your children, who are trying to find themselves in the midst of hyper-scrutiny and fame. None of that, to me, is worth it. At the time, it’s very intoxicating, being offered some huge, sexy part that would change your life forever. But it really wouldn’t ultimately be worth it.”