The science of the perfect family: Parents with two daughters report the highest levels of happiness, study finds

See more Daily Mail on Google - save us as a Preferred Source Published: 05:24 EDT, 23 September 2026 | Updated: 05:24 EDT, 23 September 2026 It's a question many couples grapple with – how many children should you have?Now, a study has revealed that if you want to be truly happy, two daughters should be your goal. Scientists from Zhejiang Gongshang University analysed previous surveys in China on parenthood and happiness. Their results revealed that having only daughters was positively associated with parental happiness. In particular, parents with two daughters – such as the Obamas, and Ryan Gosling and Eva Mendes – reported the highest levels of happiness. 'There are significant differences in the association between the gender composition of offspring and happiness, with a "daughter advantage" emerging,' the researchers said. It's a question many couples grapple with – how many children should you have? Now, a study has revealed that if you want to be truly happy, two daughters should be your goal. Pictured: Former US President Barack Obama with his wife Michelle Obama and two daughters, Malia (left) and Sasha (second from right)In the study, the team set out to understand the link between offspring composition and parental happiness. They used six waves of the Chinese General Social Survey (CGSS) – a nationally representative survey carried out from 2012-2021 that included a total of 49,752 respondents. The survey included questions on happiness, parenthood, number of children, and the gender composition of the offspring. Overall, the results showed that having only daughters was positively associated with parental happiness – with the strongest link among middle-aged parents with two daughters. As for why this is the case, the researchers have two leading theories. Firstly, they point to the gender role theory. This suggests that social norms and upbringing influence how men and women express emotions and build relationships. 'Women are socialized to be more emotionally expressive, empathetic, and oriented toward interpersonal connection, whereas men are socialized toward instrumentality and emotional restraint,' the researchers explained in their study, published in Acta Psychologica. The results revealed that having only daughters was positively associated with parental happiness. Ryan Gosling and Eva Mendes share two daughters together Next, the researchers highlight the concept of 'kinkeeping' – the work of maintaining family ties and emotional bonds across generations. '[This] has been shown to be disproportionately performed by women, particularly daughters,' they added. 'In the context of parent–child relationships, daughters are more likely to initiate contact, provide emotional support, and serve as confidants to aging parents.'The researchers point out that this study focused solely on people living in China, and say the findings may vary in other countries. They added: 'These findings deepen our understanding of how family size is associated with the quality of life of individuals and, in particular, provide empirical evidence for understanding the patterns and correlates of Chinese families' pursuit of happiness in the context of institutional change, cultural norms, and individual choices.'