Grown men heckle me over my saggy boobs and beg me to wear a bra – I can’t help if they are triggered by how sexy I am

SETTING up their camera Haley Roberts prepares to perform their signature dance – the breast helicopter. Swinging them a round in a circular motion has becoming their defiant comeback to trolls who criticise the 34-year-olds ‘saggy’ boobs. Haley Roberts says they’ve experienced abuse since coming out as non-binary Credit: Jam Press/@checkpointwild Haley films ‘breast helicopter’ videos and laughs at men who can’t handle their body Credit: Jam Press/@checkpointwild Haley, who goes by Skully online, receives constant abuse about their choice not to wear a bra. “Put a bra on those saggy t*ts, that’s triggering by itself,” said one agitated viewer. Sign up for the Fabulous newsletter Thank you! Haley responded by filming a video doing a ‘breast helicopter’, alongside the caption: “Nah, social constructs are lame. I prefer freedom.” The clip has racked up over 900,000 views. Haley says they laugh when trolls leave comments online Credit: Jam Press/@checkpointwild Haley says that filming the videos makes them feel empowered Credit: Jam Press/@checkpointwild “When I received that comment, I just laughed and immediately got out of my car to record the video,” Haley, from San Antonio, Texas said. “I felt empowered. “I get comments like ‘no wonder you’re single’ or ‘it’s sad this is all you have to offer’, ‘you’re just looking for attention’, or they call me a ‘sl*t’. “But I also get different kinds of hate from people asking me to show them my ‘t*ts’ and saying they can’t stop staring at them. Most read in Fabulous “Most of the time it comes from men, with the occasional woman in there from time to time.” Haley uses she/her/they pronouns and says they have no issue with being called a woman – but do not identify with traditional constructs surrounding gender. Haley said: “The only people who give me issues are the trolls online who say I look like a man or that non-binary isn’t real. “I jokingly say you can call me whatever you want, just don’t call me a man.” Haley began questioning their own relationship with gender after hearing someone on a podcast struggle to describe what it actually “feels like” to be a woman. They shared their decision to come out online with The Misfit Formation, an online community they are part of, and were met with strong support. After initially experiencing abuse only online, Haley recently faced a similar reaction in person. Two men had been hitting on them throughout a night out – until a conversation about transgender people came up. Haley said: “I told them I was actually trans, non-binary, and they suddenly didn’t like me anymore. “Even though I’m the same person they were vibing with just seconds prior. “It was highly disappointing, but I stood my ground and responded exactly how I said I would. “I don’t see the big deal. “I’m just a human being who happens to be female. “Why can’t we just exist without you either sexualising us or shaming us? “I promise the world will keep spinning, and it would be much better for it.”