Brits say they’re burnt out from always being the first to reach out to pals as experts warn of ‘friendship recession’

More than half of adults class maintaining friendships as a ‘second job’ and spend more than half an hour a day socialising, according to research. The poll of 2,000 UK adults found 44% are burnt out from always being the one to reach out first, while 46% wish they had more support to keep up with their friendships. Only 14% of adults say they choose to spend their spare time on socialising Credit: Will Ireland/PinPep Meanwhile just 23% of people say they have friends who check in on them unprompted Credit: Will Ireland/PinPep Despite 76% believing social connection gives life purpose and meaning, adults spend just 34 minutes a day socialising. Only 14% choose to spend their spare time on socialising – with hobbies and exercise taking preference. Sign up for the Money newsletter Thank you! The findings form part of White Claw’s Social Refresh Report, which found adults spend just 34 minutes per day socialising. To show its commitment to bringing people together, the drinks brand partnered with Cliq, a social networking app on a joint mission to create 50,000 new friendships this year. As part of their partnership, they worked with Olympic gold medallist Sam Quek MBE, who took part in a walk and talk event set up by the brands in London. Speaking at the event, the former field hockey player said: “Making friends as an adult is actually wild, when you’re younger, friendships just seem to happen, but as an adult you have to be much more intentional. “I think we forget that meeting people is so much easier when the whole point isn’t just ‘meet people’ – it’s on doing something you genuinely enjoy. “I’ve started joining local clubs, playing netball, football and trying new activities, and it’s been a brilliant way to meet like-minded people while naturally growing my friendship circle. It doesn’t have to feel like another job.” Most read in Money It was also found 55% believe being a good friend now takes more effort than it used to, with 41% spending less than 10% of their energy on social connections. And signs of a “friendship recession” emerged, with 20% saying their friendships aren’t an equal effort and only 23% having people who check in on them unprompted. Nearly a fifth (20%) of those polled via Ordnance said their friendships aren’t an equal effort as only 23% have people who check in on them unprompted. More than four in 10 (45%) feel like their friendships are running on routine, and 47 per cent say socialising leaves them drained because of unspoken expectations. What’s more, a quarter socialise less in person than they did a few years ago, with 40% saying they haven’t returned to pre-pandemic social habits. However, 49% worry they aren’t doing enough to be a ‘good friend’ despite 44% craving deeper connections – but are too tired to do anything about it. Psychologist Katherine Templar Lewis, who has partnered with the drinks brand, said: “Research shows a friendship recession through a decline in friendship and friendship circles, but what we are really seeing is a decline in the conditions that allow friendship to form: time, proximity, ritual, shared attention and low-pressure togetherness. “We are more contactable than ever, but not necessarily more connected. “As loneliness increases, we are facing a real challenge, as connection is not a luxury, it is a fundamental pillar of our emotional and mental health.” In a separate study conducted by OnePoll.com, it was found money (20%), distance (22%), and emotional risk (19%) are major blockers for igniting new friendships. It was also revealed the average adult has eight friends in total – but only four of these are counted as ‘close’ pals. A third feel they already have enough friends and are not looking to expand their circle, while 22% believe making new friendships has become harder. Of those who believe this, 44% argue people are too wedded to their existing friendship groups and also less likely to start conversations with strangers (34%). Comment now